Are you waiting to be good enough just to start? If you are, how do you define good enough?
I want to share my experience. By sharing my story, I hope to inspire you to move from doubt to action. I started Inspireu2Action to help others overcome obstacles that had stood in my way for years.
I’ve battled with a thought of not being good enough for as long as I can remember, only I didn’t define this as my problem. I couldn’t quite put a finger on it. In fact, I didn’t even acknowledge it until recently. It was just there, and it always seemed to stop me.
It was a thought, a nagging feeling, an idea that I was somehow inadequate or not quite up to the task at hand. The task was irrelevant. No matter what I wanted to do, I found a reason why I couldn’t do it. I saw where and how I fell short.
I spent years chasing after perfection. The thought was that I needed to be perfect to do anything of significance. In all honesty, I didn’t feel good enough.
Yes, I believe in setting high standards. I do it all the time. I like to set goals. It’s great to have something to shoot for. But when standards are unrealistic, that’s when you have a problem. Mine were unrealistic, and that was certainly one of my problems.
I was always able to find something or someone to blame for my feelings. This seemed to perpetuate the issue. As long as something else was making me feel this way, I didn’t have to deal with it. I didn’t have to change. I didn’t have to acknowledge that the problem was mine. In reality, my thinking was wrong and needed to change.
How did I change my view of good enough?
Just to be clear, I still have moments when I struggle with the idea of not being good enough. I don’t believe there’s a person on earth who doesn’t deal with that thought from time to time.
In fact, I’m thinking it right this very moment. I acknowledge the thought. But, here’s the difference. I can still have the thought, but I don’t have to allow it to control how I respond. I don’t have to allow it to stop me.
I’ve learned that I have a choice.
I can choose to trust God.
I can choose to trust Him with the gifts He’s given me.
I can choose to believe in myself and my abilities.
I can choose to take action.
I can decide to do something to help others.
I can decide to change my way of thinking.
I can decide to change my view of the world. And as a result, positively influence the world.
You see, we all have choices.
Expecting a feeling of not being good enough to go away and never come back is unrealistic. Accepting that it will come back from time to time makes it easier to deal with. If you know the thought will come, you can decide how to respond ahead of time.
When it pops up, and I assure you it will, you have a choice. You can change your perspective and take action. Or, you can allow it to stop you. But, you can make the right decision despite how you feel.
If ready to step into your potential, let’s talk.
Julie Barbera, author of the forthcoming book, Cracked Mirror, Clear Reflection
“Treasures Are Right Before Our Eyes, yet Many Miss Gems Searching for Pearls at the Bottom of the Sea.”